We are all free to choose who we are, how we feel, where we live, and what we do from day to day. We are free to choose how we live every part of our lives. Yet how often do you feel that you don't have a choice? When we're in our pattern, we don't see that we have a choice. We do what we have always done. We act, speak, and think just like the same 'ol person we always have been.
When you finally say, "Enough is enough," you can ask yourself, "What other choices do I have?" At this point, you can either take the path that you normally would take (following your pattern), or you can look to see what other choices are available to you. Just know that you'll always have a choice, no matter what your goal or your situation is. It's your pattern that tells you that you only have one choice.
If you're having a hard time seeing any choice other than the one you normally would take, you need to clear your mind. To do this, you'll want to do something calming, like meditation, yoga, or going for a walk: anything quiet that helps relax your mind. Your intent is to see your choices. This is what your mind will be focusing on when you're doing your calming activity.
If you don't get an answer right away, then wait a day or two. A lot of times it's hard to see beyond our patterns, and hear our choices. You will get an answer in time as long as you're asking to see other choices. Be open to your answer and be patient. You will get what you're asking for.
Remember to keep your mind and your options open. If you get stuck trying to decide which way to go, use your calming tools: meditation, yoga, walking, or anything that will help relax your mind. Knowing that you always have a choice is an empowering thing. It's a sense of freedom that everyone can attain. Always know that you are free to choose who you are, and to create the life you truly want.